That time of year has come yet again and many of us will wake up on January 1, 2016 with the thought of “new year, new me.” Unfortunately, most New Year’s resolutions fail – and of course that partially happens due to a lack of inner motivation – but often times people don’t make any progress with their goals because they didn’t set the right goals in the first place.
Not only should you make your resolutions realistic (that’s a given!), but it’s equally if not more important to take advantage of this opportunity of rebirth by setting goals that when accomplished, will make you feel proud and content.
Here’s a list of 8 New Year’s resolutions that will help you make 2016 the best, most successful and most fulfilling year of your life:
- Don’t Cheat On Yourself
The one person you should never cheat on is yourself. And that’s because once you do, not only have you made yourself more vulnerable, but you’ve also compromised your personal integrity. Telling yourself you’re going to accomplish something and then choosing to ignore that promise is arguably a form of lying. This cycle of lying or cheating on yourself only worsens and snowballs overtime – not because it’s addicting but because you’ve convinced yourself that it’s okay not to try your best.
During this coming year, remember the sense of empowerment that comes when you actually do what you say you’re going to do. Planned to go to the gym today? Don’t use the weather as an excuse and get your workout gear on. Stop the vicious cycle you’ve formed over the year and start developing a character of honor. You’ll feel amazing, trust me.
- Forget Short-Term Resolutions
Small goals can be great if you’ve planned them in the morning during breakfast in attempt to seize the day and be productive. However, your New Year’s resolution should require more time to accomplish and be set in the long-term. Here’s why – long-term goals give you the chance to actually work to achieve them for an extended period of time. For instance, if you set the aim of starting your own business by sometime next year, you will have the opportunity to work towards this goal for days, weeks, and months on end. And we all know that the more time and effort one puts into something, the more satisfying the results will feel.
Remember, quick wins = short bursts of fulfillment = boo!
Another reason to form long-term goals is because it teaches you the art of patience. I’ve always been the kind of person who loves quick results. If I said I wanted to lose 5 lbs in two months, as long as I saw some progress within the first week, I’d feel pretty happy. But that’s exactly where the trap lies. The best things in life are worth waiting for and working towards, so it’s time to stop obsessing over instant gratification.
- Do Something For Others
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with self-development, but if all your goals are centered on yourself then you’ll start to realize that sometimes, focusing on other people brings more contentment. Learning and addressing the needs of others is not just beneficial towards them but it will also help you to grow as a kind, altruistic person.
This coming year, try to do at least one thing for someone else once a day. It can be as small as bringing coffee for your colleague Joe to put a smile on his face.
- Meet New Social Groups
If you’re an extrovert who loves to meet new people and can talk to them for hours on end, let me just say kudos to you! You can skip right along to #4 because what I’m about to say next is going to sound all too familiar.
Now, for those of us who on a day-to-day basis, are not so keen to meet strangers at a party or talk to that foreign exchange student at the library, pay attention. I know our introverted ways are telling us that small talk is bullsh*t and that we have better things to do, but pushing yourself to meet new people and form new social groups comes with so many psychological benefits.
First of all, it allows you to be more open-minded, because you begin to learn what other people have been through and why they’ve formed their personal beliefs. Secondly, you get to escape your comfort zone and challenge yourself to grow. Thirdly, you will also learn more about yourself through talking to and creating relationships with others.
*Just as a disclaimer, we’re not saying there’s anything wrong with introverts (there’s good and bad to everyone), but for the sake of making this point it’s important that we emphasize the good that comes with mixing a bit of introversion and extroversion.
- Make Fitness a Year-Round Thing
If your New Year’s resolution this year has anything to do with fitness or getting a hotter bod, keep in mind that working out and being healthy should be a year-round thing and not just a January thing. We all know that the minute January starts, tons of people will sign up for a new gym membership hoping to get stunning abs, massive biceps and tight glutes. But fast forward to 2 months later and more than half of those people will have quit their journey and left their running shoes in the closet.
In order to stick to your fitness goals, don’t think of it as a 5-week process after which you will stop. Instead, make going to the gym or attending that new Pilates class a part of your daily schedule. This will make it feel less like a burden and will increase the likelihood of you actually succeeding.
- Surround Yourself With Positive Energy
This year, tell yourself that you no longer have time for negative people who constantly put you down and bring bad vibes. If your friends are not supportive, motivating and healthy individuals, it’s time to cut them out. The same applies towards family members. If you have a brother who always makes you feel bad about yourself, who judges your lifestyle and choices, who doesn’t appreciate the efforts that you make, don’t spend too much time with him (Thanksgiving and Xmas dinners are more than enough!)