We’re told that one definition of insanity is to repeat the same fruitless action over and over again and expecting the outcome to change. On the other hand, we’re constantly told to follow our dreams and never, ever give up. Which is right?
It would seem that as long as you have some feasible chance of eventually succeeding, the more positive, never-give-up school of thought is the wisest. Wouldn’t it be tragic to abandon an endeavour when there’s a possibility that you would crack it on your very next attempt?
But this does mean that you’ll encounter failure and disappointment on numerous occasions, which can be discouraging and depressing. So here are some suggestions for getting past those moments and staying on track.
First of all, think of yourself as a work in progress, not a finished product. That will help you to forgive yourself when things don’t work and make you less afraid to set tough, demanding – and ultimately more satisfying – challenges.
Build and maintain a support system. Make sure you have friends and family who know what your challenge is. Tell them honestly how you feel about it and, above all, tell them when you suffer a major setback. Don’t keep it to yourself. Sharing it can make a world of difference to your perspective and recovery.
Examine everything, think for yourself and dispute all negative assumptions. When someone says or you think to yourself ”it can’t be done,” make your next question “really? Who says?”
Tenacity is a skill that can be learnt and developed, so take the time to work on your own sense of determination. Adversity can always be turned into an opportunity to do better. The basketball legend Michael Jordan said: “I have failed over and over again in my life and that is why I succeed.”